How Demelza's care makes a real difference

Mum Sharon shares why the care from Demelza is so important and how this helped her switch off from being a carer for the first time in nearly 16 years. 

“Fenton is 15 years old and fully quadriplegic with cerebral palsy, which means he can’t move his body independently from the neck down. He can’t eat, feed, or bathe himself; he can’t even lift a hand to scratch his nose. He also has severe epilepsy which cannot be controlled and is severely sight impaired. He has had these conditions since birth.

Despite his severe disability, he's got a huge personality; when he was little, he was very cheeky and comical, and now he’s your typical moody teenager. He loves to give me a bit of side-eye and a bit of cheek, and as any of the ladies will tell you he’s also a massive flirt!

His care is a full-time job and can be exhausting, but it’s our ‘normal’. Our house is filled with medical equipment, and I rarely have days to myself – everything revolves around Fenton.

I can’t even take a long shower in case Fenton has a seizure, so I wash in just a few minutes and then just try and make the most of the warm water until I need to get out and carry on his care.

When we had our first respite stay at Demelza, I was terrified – worrying it was going to be the wrong thing, or too much like a hospital. The second we pulled up to Demelza those worries melted away. The nurses came out to greet us from the car, and they knew Fenton by name and spoke directly to him – not at him. It was like a lead coat had been lifted off my shoulders and I could breathe for the first time in years.

During one of these respite stays I had my first bath in nearly 16 years. It’s the first time I can remember feeling totally unhurried; I was in there for half an hour, then got straight into bed and read a book, then slept for 15 hours! It just let me be me for a while, just ‘Sharon’. It sounds silly but I never would have done that without Demelza.

I’m never worried about handing Fenton’s clinical care over either; they are so attentive I just know he will be looked after. He gets so much out of it socially too – he does arts and crafts, or other times he might use the pool (another thing that’s near-impossible in day-to-day life). Demelza is a blessing for both of us, a real lifeline – I don’t know where we’d be without them.”

Fenton’s mum, Sharon.

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